Unwanted Separation or Divorce
Posted on Oct 28th 2015 at 08:10 PM
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There are no Easy 1-2-3 Steps to Recovery after an unwanted separation or divorce, but here are a few tips that might be helpful:

--  Your spouse chose to share life with you in the past, but now they have changed their mind.  Rejection hurts.  Betrayal hurts.  Being lied to hurts.  So go ahead and work through the emotions of sadness and loss.  Go ahead -- cry whenever you need to.

--  You'll probably experience moments of anger, but remember, the Bible states "be angry and sin not."  Google the "5-Stages of Grief" to help you understand some of the emotions you will experience during this time.  The stages are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance

--  If you are tempted to beg your spouse to reunite, then this 3 minute video clip by TD Jakes might help you say Goodbye instead of begging them.

--  Don't dishonor yourself by neglecting your needs.  You are made in the image of God -- you have great value even though your spouse wants to live separate from you.

--  Listen to songs that have a thankful attitude, like "Wonderful Summer" by Robin Ward.

--  True love will let go and set someone free -- holding them against their will is not love.  Although it's not Christian based, here's a book that I highly suggest you read to help you understand that your spouse is yearning to be set free:  Uncoupling:  Turning Points in Intimate Relationships

And here's a very important verse from the Bible:

Philippians 4:11b - 13

"For I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.  I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.  I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me."